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  • Writer's pictureSaharah

Why Do I self Sabotage?

To me, self sabotage seems to have its roots in unresolved CPTSD from childhood. When a child's basic needs are unmet, they develop a "story" or create beliefs that there must be something "wrong" with them, leading to low self esteem, isolation, superiority or inferiority complexes, savior complex, unhealthy ego attachments and the like. This is very common and you are not alone.

I offered an energy healing session sampler on this subject recently on youtube. The group clearing can give you insight into roots causes from unresolved energies (this life or other) and may help do some "heavy lifting" so that you can begin healing this behavioral pattern. These clearings are not a substitute from seeking mental health guidance and/or taking responsibility for your thoughts, actions and behaviors.

Overcoming feelings of superiority or inferiority can be a challenging but rewarding journey towards a healthier self-esteem and improved relationships with others. Here are seven steps to help you change these complexes:

  1. Self-awareness: Recognize when feelings of superiority or inferiority arise within you. Understand the root causes of these emotions, which can often be linked to past experiences, societal influences, or personal insecurities.

  2. Challenge negative thoughts: When you catch yourself thinking in terms of superiority or inferiority, challenge those thoughts. Replace them with more balanced and realistic perspectives about yourself and others.

  3. Practice empathy: Try to see things from other people's perspectives. Empathy can help you understand that everyone has their own strengths, weaknesses, and struggles, which can level the playing field in your mind.

  4. Set realistic goals: Focus on your own personal growth and achievements without comparing yourself to others. Set realistic goals that are based on your own values and aspirations, rather than external standards of success.

  5. Celebrate progress: Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Building self-esteem through self-validation can help diminish feelings of inferiority.

  6. Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about your feelings of superiority or inferiority. Getting an outside perspective can provide valuable insights and support on your journey to change these complexes.

  7. Practice gratitude: Cultivate a sense of gratitude for the positive aspects of your life. Focusing on what you have rather than what you lack can help shift your mindset from one of comparison to one of contentment and self-acceptance.

Remember, 2 things:

  • we all struggle with these feelings, it just shows up in different ways but the root cause is mostly the same.

  • The answer? Learn to love yourself.

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